Coming home today from Abbey's volleyball practice, I had the radio on my usual station. As we're driving, Abbey pipes up and says, "That song could be about you and me." I have to admit, I really wasn't listening to the song, I was thinking about the next thing on my mile long to-do-list. So I casually remarked, "Oh, really, how's that?" "Because we waited for each other a long time", she explained. By the time I started listening, the chorus was finishing up so I didn't acknowledge that I hadn't really been listening to the song, and said, "I certainly did wait for you and I am so grateful that you are here."
When we got home I did some research and found the song. It is this song by Christina Perri.
I think it's so wonderful that she can take the words of this song and see herself in it, and while I know it's not a song about adoption, I'm thrilled that Abbey knows that we did die every day that we had to wait for her, and later for Elijah. I also think it's neat that she feels that she was waiting for us too. I'm also grateful that she knows we love her and will always love her. In the much too fast approaching teen years, I know that concept of being unconditionally loved will be challenged on many fronts. It happens among biological children, and even more aggressively among adopted children.
That is one reason why we celebrate "Gotcha Days". All of our kids have had, and Lord willing, will have pretty big birthday celebrations. But, the "Gotcha Days" celebrations give us an intentional time to reiterate how thankful we are that we are their family and how much we love them. This July we took an evening and celebrated Abbey at Edible Art Bakery.
These fun times, hopefully, will help Abbey and Elijah remember how much they are loved and wanted, even during the turbulent teen years.